Skip to Content

Couple Questions | 200+ Conversation Starters for Couples

Looking for the best EVER couple questions?

You have come to the right place! We’ve all been there – sometimes conversation can be hard to make! You might be on a first date or even have been married for ages and just can’t think of anything new or fun to ask.

And that’s totally okay. It happens to the best of us.

We have done the hard work for you and thought of 200+ Conversation Starters for Couples – whether you are looking for relationship questions, ice-breaker questions and even some deep thought provoking questions to really get you thinking!

The best questions to ask couples here. 

Couple Questions | 200+ Conversation Starters for Couples

Let’s start with some good couple questions. You could make these into a fun questionnaire for couples that you could even use on date night or for jam jar date ideas… if you are a creative type!

What is the most embarrassing moment of your life to date?

What is the very best moment of your life to date?

If a beggar asked for money and you knew they were genuine, would you give it?

Pick one friend to switch lives with

Would you rather be rich or famous?

If you won a trip to anywhere in the world, where would you pick?

If you had to watch 1 movie on repeat forever what would it be?

What would be your green mile meal?

Which friend or family member of mine could you do without?

If you weren’t a human, which animal would you choose to be?

What you consider adopting?

If I loved a name for a child but you hated it, would you let me name our kid that?

What do you see us doing in 5 years time?

What do you see us doing in 10 years time?

Would you rather all boys or all girls?

What do you think our net worth will be when we are retired?

What do you see yourself doing when you have retired?

Do you or have you ever wanted a holiday home?

Do you see yourself house downsizing or upsizing in the future?

Who is one person you think we won’t have contact with in the future?

If you were chosen to go to space on a one way ticket, would you do it?

Would you like to travel to Mars?

Do you think aliens exist?

Name 3 countries you would like to visit in the next 10 years?

Name 3 countries you don’t want to ever visit?

Other than your country, if you were a citizen of another country, where would you choose?

Do you prefer to travel by plane, car or boat?

Could you live in a tiny house?

Could you campervan around a country for a year?

What country is at the top of your bucket list right now?


Relationship Questions

When you start to date someone and get to know them, you might want to figure out what they are like in a relationship. A lot of that is going to be dictated on what they were like in past relationships. Did they cheat in a past relationship. If so, what is their excuse for that behaviour. Is that excuse reasonable? You be the judge 😉

What qualities do you look for in a guy/girl?

What was the shortest relationship you have had?

What is the longest relationship you have ever had?

What is the most romantic thing you have ever done?

Do you think you are a romantic?

Would you change something you did in your last relationship?

Do you think you would make a good girlfriend/boyfriend?

Why did your last relationship end?

What is a deal breaker in a past relationship?

What did your last relationship like most about you?

What did your last relationship dislike most about you?


Would You Rather Questions for Couples

I’m seriously a fan of would you rather questions. Even when you have been in a relationship for years these questions are sooo much fun. You can make them serious or as silly as you like. Here are some of my favs below. Still looking for more? You can check out some more would you rather questions for couples in this epic list.

Would you rather fly a kite or hike a mountain?

Would you rather be covered in fur or covered in scales?

Would you rather live in a sailboat or in a RV?

Would you rather see your girlfriend with or without makeup?

Would you rather never be able to go out during the day or never be able to go out at night?

Would you rather lose your sight or your memories?

Would you rather be the first person to explore a planet or be the inventor of a cure?

Would you rather be rich or famous?

Would you rather be royalty 1,000 years ago or an average person today?

Would you rather always have B.O. and not know it or always smell B.O. on everyone else?

Would you rather live in a tree house or in a cave?

Would you rather live forever and never find love or die at 65 and have found the love of your life?

Would you rather die before or after your partner?

Would you rather find love or be successful career wise?

Would you rather be in love with your best friend, or have your best friend be in love with you?

Would you rather ask someone on a date and have them say no or never ask them?

Would you rather never be able to go to anyone’s wedding or have to go to a funeral every day?

Would you rather find true love for 1 year or a partnership (not true love) for life?

Would you rather be lucky in love or lucky in health?

Would you rather live a poor life with your loved one or rich life all alone?

Would you rather sacrifice having kids if it meant meeting your true love?

Would you rather sleep with your girlfriend or get paid $10000 not to?

After a bad day, would you rather hug your Mom or Dad?

Would you rather get up early or stay up late?

Would you rather ask for help or figure it out yourself?

Would you rather watch a comedy movie or a horror movie?

Would you rather not shower for a week or not brush your teeth for a week?

Would you rather be a famous actor or singer?

Would you rather wear comfortable clothes or fashionable clothes?

Would you rather be rich and famous or just rich?

Would you rather always be overdressed or always be underdressed?

Know about everything and never be surprised or have everything surprise you?

Would you rather discover aliens are real or witches?


Conversation starters for couples | Great get to know you questions for couples

Looking for great get to know you questions for couples? Awesome here are some fun couples conversation starters (we have included questions to get to know you and also some that might be better suited to a long term couple):

What makes you anxious?

In what ways are you most different from the person you were in high school?

Tell me the story of your first love.

What food or drink most evokes a feeling of home for you?

What are five things you couldn’t live without?

What is your favorite memory of us?

Who’s someone in your life that you really look up to?

What’s your purpose in life?

What Food Best Describes Your Personality?

Should children help with household chores?

What Is Your Favorite Type Of Romantic Gesture?

Do you have a good relationship with your body?

What’s Your Plan If There Was A Zombie Apocalypse?

What’s something you’re really good at?

Tell me about a time you felt completely out of your comfort zone.

What reality show do you think you’d be most successful on?

What Are Some Things You Like To Do Alone?

What Are Your Five Most Important Personal Values?

21 questions for couples  | Couple questions game

Looking for 21 questions for a new relationship? The 21 question game is such a fun way to get to know someone a bit better. Here are some great 21 questions for couples, whether in a long term or a new relationship.

Who is your celebrity crush?

Why did your last relationship end? 

What’s the best gift you’ve ever received and who was it from?

What is your favorite thing about your career?

What names were ruined for you because you knew someone terrible with that name?

Have you been into any serious relationship before?

When in life have you been most nervous?

Which fictional villain made you feel real hatred towards?

What is your idea of a perfect date?

Where is your favorite place in the world?

What are your top five favorite movies?

What’s your zodiac sign?

What is your favorite word?

Tell me your three biggest pet peeves?

What was your first impression of me when we met?

If you were to start a family somewhere in the world, where would it be?

When did you have your first kiss?

Did you ever have a crush on a teacher?

What breaks your heart?

What motivates you to work hard?

What’s the grossest thing you’ve drunk? 

What are you passionate about?

What is your best hobby?

Who is your hero?

What is the saddest thing that is happening in the world right now?

Where have you traveled to before?

What’s the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?

What really makes you angry?

What would you say are the aspects that draw you to me?

Name 3 of my body parts that you like the most?

What color do you think would look best on me?

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Do you see me falling for you?

Describe your ideal relationship?

What do you think is the best pick up line?

If I was a flower, what kind of flower would I be?

What is something that you think sets me apart from other people?

What famous actress/actor do you think I’m most like?

Do you like my outfit?

What is your biggest turn off?

Do you have a secret fantasy?

Do you believe in having a soul mate?

What is your favourite romantic movie?

Do you believe in fate or destiny?

What do you think is my favorite food?

If we were to go on another date, where would you take me?

What is refreshing about me?

Do you often have dreams?

  • You might also like to check out our super fun roundup of couples quizzes!


Deep Thought Provoking Questions for Couples

Ready for the good old deep and meaningful conversation. Some of us love it, some of us hate it but the deep questions are ones we need to get through in order to be a better couple and a better partner.

Can you describe what your first heartbreak was like?

Has your idea of love changed over time?

What’s something you used to believe about relationships, but no longer do?

Should children receive more love or discipline?

Is going to church or another house of worship important to you?

What was your first sexual experience like?

Was there an embarrassing fashion moment in your adolescence?

Was your heart broken in the past?

Is there a personality trait that always ticks you off in a person?

Is it all right to decline spending time together?

Have you ever been cheated on?

What’s something you’d like to try doing, but haven’t worked up the nerve yet?

How do you deal with anger? Do you repress it or express it?

Couples trivia questions

This is a fun game to play. Some people play it on their wedding day with a shoe but you can also play it on a date. Ask a series of “Who does it better/Who is more likely to” X question. You both write it down. If you agree you get a point, the more points the more compatible you are.

What did you eat on your first date?

Who is better at cooking?

Who is better at cleaning?

Who is more romantic?

Who will/did say I love you first?

Who is the bigger foodie?

Who likes traveling the most?

Who could survive better on a desert island?

Who is better with money?

Who is nicer?

Who will first start a fight?

Who will first end a fight?

Fun questions for couples

When was the last time you laughed so hard you cried?

Have you ever peed your pants (be honest!)

Would you rather still be friends with an ex or never talk to them again?

Would you rather jump into a pool of custard or apple pudding?

Are you a fan of public displays of affection?

If we were stranded on a desert island, what are 4 things we should bring?

If you died, would you rather your spouse marry your best friend or someone you hated?

Would you rather dance in a club or under the moonlight?

Truth or dare?

How many days have you gone without changing your underwear? (BE honest)

Would you ever do a nudie run?

Would you ever visit a nude beach?

Would you rather stay in or go out for a date?

Would you rather spend the day inside or outside?

Would you rather your partner brought a stray dog to sleep in your bed or brought a hobo to sleep in your bed?

After a stressful day, would you rather have hot drinks or cold drinks?

Would you rather – your partner go through your phone everyday or your partner live 2 hours away?

Would you rather have coffee or wine with me?

Would you rather spend an evening watching the sunset or at a theater?

Would you rather your partner’s personality to be exactly like your or the exact opposite of yours?

Would you rather see me with makeup or without makeup?

Would you rather your baby looked like you or me?

Would you rather your partner left hair on the soap or left hair all over the bathroom floor?

Random questions for couples 

Random questions are pretty fun, whether you are looking for random questions for your significant other or for a friend. Who doesn’t like to answer a random question. Actually scrap that. I know a lot of people who are super frustrated by a random question.

But am I a going to ask one anyway. HELL YES! So in that case, maybe save your super annoying random questions for a longer relationship. You might not want to show your annoying side juuusstt yet 😉

What if you could live for 200 years?

What was your best age in life so far?

If you could change something about your past what would that be?

Who was your first ever crush?

What were you like in high school?

What is the one thing you hate about your family?

Is your glass half full or half empty?

If you had to listen to one song for the rest of your life, what would it be?

What is the worst thing you’ve done as a kid?

If you could live forever, but that means being a vampire, what you choose to do it?

If you could have any career on the planet, what would it be and why?

What is the worst meal you’ve ever had?

What’s Your Favorite Place on Earth?

What is on your bucket list?

What’s the craziest thing you’ve done for love?

What’s your favorite television show?

What would you name your boat if you had one?

If you were on love island, describe your type on paper?

What’s your biggest deal-breaker in a relationship?

What’s your biggest deal-breaker in a relationship?

What kind of pillow is your favourite?

What would be your perfect day?

What’s your favorite sports team?

How well do you sleep in hotel rooms?

So, why is it worth taking a chance on you?

Are you a heartbreaker?

Starter, main or desert?

Would you cook for a girl?

Do you think that aliens exist?

Do you think ghosts are real?

Do you think horoscopes are real?

You prefer being the big spoon or the little spoon?

Are you a light sleeper?

What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever seen?

What do you think is the worst pick up line?


Icebreaker questions for couples 

Sometimes it is nice just to break the ice, especially if you are on an awkward date. Here are some of our favourite icebreaker questions.If you are looking for more questions, here are some more icebreaker questions for couples:

If you won the lottery, how would you spend it?

What is one thing that you couldn’t live without?

What was the last song you listened to?

What would you tell yourself five years ago?

What is one thing that makes you unique?

What’s your favourite travel memory?

If you could see anyone in concert who would you see and why?

Tell me about the last movie that you absolutely loved?

If you were stuck on a desert island, what would you bring with you?

What is the worst tinder date that you have been on?

What song best represents your life?

Rank the three worst movies of all time.

What is the very best moment of your life to date?

How many siblings do you have?

Have you ever drunk drove?

Have you ever gone skinny dipping?

What school did you go to?

Have you ever gambled?

Your favorite non-alcoholic and alcoholic drink?

Have you ever  invested stock?

Have you ever drove without a seatbelt?

What were your parents like when you were growing up?

What was your biggest fear as a kid?

What is one thing you loved about your childhood and what would you change if you could?

Have you ever stolen something?

Have you ever drunk a whole bottle of spirits?

Have you ever got a speeding fine?

What was one of the best things you used to do as a family?

Have you broken a bone?

Have you ever spent time in jail?

conversation-starters for couples


See more couples fun: