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200 Get to Know You Questions: The Secret to Engaging Conversation

Looking for interesting get to know you questions for couples? Great! You have come to the right place!

It can be hard to get to know someone – knowing what to say/or ask can be difficult – don’t worry – we’ve alllll been there! Getting to know someone on a deeper level is important because 1. it helps you know if you are compatible and 2. it helps you to build a deeper connection.

To help you in this struggle, we have come up with over 200 questions to get to know someone better. It can be used for couples, but it is also fun to use with friends and family too (we kept most of the questions pretty PG rated).

We have categorized our questions depending on what you want to uncover/how you want the conversation to go… with questions to get to know someone for the purposes of a relationship, funny questions, deep and personal questions and we’ve thrown in some pretty random ones too – just for fun!

Whatever type of question you are after, bookmark these 200 + questions to get to know someone as your go-to list.

Our Favourite Fun Get to Know You Questions for Couples

If you want questions to ask someone you are talking to on a romantic level, here are a few good ones to jot down.

What makes you dislike a person?

What are some of the highest-valued things on your bucket list?

Can you describe what your first heartbreak was like?

What’s something that you like about me?

What makes you hate a person?

Do you think you are a confident person? Why or why not?

 Do you want kids? If so, what are some of the values you want to instill in them?

What was the biggest lesson from your worst breakup?

Who is more inclined to be jealous, you or me?

What’s the craziest job you’d be willing to take?

What about yourself are you most proud of?

Where is a place you’ve always wanted to travel?

What’s something you used to believe about relationships, but no longer do?

What would the best version of you be like?

What is something you want to do together that we haven’t?

Who is more of a risk-taker—you or me?

Which family member did you admire most when you were young?

 If you had a friend who spoke to you the same way you speak to yourself, would you keep them as a friend?

What are some of the most attractive traits a person can have?

What is your favorite memory of a person who is no longer in your life?

What is your idea of a healthy relationship?

How good are you at reading people?

What does a balanced relationship look like to you?

What petty thing that people do really gets on your nerves?

What is the main thing that you think makes a relationship last?

How do you express anger?

Have you ever been cheated on?

When was the last time you cried?

What aspect of yourself would you improve if you had the chance?

Do you think you are a confident person? Why or why not?

What’s your definition of romance?

What would your perfect life look like?

Are you hopeful about your future?

What is one person’s habit that you find disgusting?

What helped shape your current political stance and principles?

When has a mundane occurrence or chance completely changed the course of your life?

What do you worry about?

Do you think infidelity is always a dealbreaker, no matter what?

When do you feel the most secure and taken care of?

Would you rather own a home you don’t love, or rent one that you do love?

What’s something you’d like to try doing, but haven’t worked up the nerve yet?

Who do you act nice around but secretly dislike?

What’s one of MY best qualities?

If you received a salary to follow whatever passion you wanted to, what would you do?

What was your favorite school subject growing up?

Would you try long-distance if anything happened that required me to move far from here?

What’s your ideal way to spend a vacation?

Who was your first crush, and what were they like?

Read more: 101 Engaging Questions to Ask Your Crush for a Deeper Connection

Questions about life

What has been a recurring theme in your life?

Where would be your ideal place—or places—to live?

What book or movie do you wish you could experience for the first time again?

What experiences and situations, whether yours or someone else’s, inspired your philosophy of love?

What would you do with your life if you suddenly became a billionaire?

For the past five years, what have you been most thankful for?

Do you trust me?

Are there any people, from friends to relatives, you want to get closer to? Why?

What do your parents think about me?

What is something you wish you could say to people but can’t?

How do you like to spend a rainy afternoon?

 How superstitious are you?

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Questions about kids

Asking about kids or someone’s childhood can be a sensitive topic, so it’s important to approach these questions with consideration and respect. Below are some thoughtful questions you could ask:

“How was your own childhood? What were some of your favorite memories growing up?”

“Do you have any siblings? What was your relationship like with them growing up?”

“Do you enjoy spending time with kids in your family or friend circle? How do you usually engage with them?”

“Have you ever thought about having kids in the future?” (Note: This question is quite direct and should only be asked when you feel comfortable and think it’s appropriate.)

“What values would you want to instill in your children, if you decided to have any?”

“How do you imagine balancing parenthood and your career/other personal interests?”

“Do you have any thoughts on parenting styles or education that you strongly believe in?”

“Have you thought about how many kids you’d ideally like to have, if any at all?”

“In your opinion, what’s the best part about being around kids?”

“If you were to become a parent, what’s the one thing you would want to do differently from your own parents?”


Funny Questions to get to know someone better

What was your most inappropriate or embarrassing fart?

What’s your go-to dance move?

Serious question here, do you count your steps?

Did your parents have alternative name options that they were considering when naming you? What were they?

What’s the funniest thing you’ve seen a kid do?

What one story about your childhood best explains the person you are today?

If you had to work at an amusement park or a famous landmark for the rest of your life, which place would you choose?

What is one weird fact or tidbit that you still remember from school?

What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever heard a child say?

Tell a story about a time you felt super old. What happened?

What funny story is your hometown famous for?

What’s the funniest name you can think of for a pet?

What’s the best prank you’ve ever pulled on someone?

What’s something I would never guess about you?

What is your most unusual talent?

What is the dumbest way you’ve been injured?

What’s a movie you can practically quote from start to finish?

What’s the most awkward thing that happens to you on a regular basis?

What’s a pet peeve that you would make illegal if you could?

What’s the funniest place you’ve ever fallen asleep?

What’s the most awkward date you’ve ever been on?

What is one weird fact or tidbit that you still remember from school?

If you could create a new invention, what would you create?

What’s the best Wi-Fi name you’ve seen?

What Disney/cartoon character was you inexplicably afraid of as a kid?

What terrible gift have you gotten that you’ve had to keep?

What’s something that people think makes them look cool, but actually makes them look ridiculous?

If you could completely get rid of one month out of the year, which month would it be and why?

What’s the most ridiculous fact you know?

Do you have any crazy roommate stories?

What’s the funniest name you can think of for a pet?

What would be the silliest feature of your dream house?

What’s the cheesiest movie moment or line you can think of?

What’s the worst fashion or hair decision you’ve made?

What’s your worst bug-related story?

If you could invent a new dish, what ingredients would it have?

In one sentence, how would you sum up the internet?

What’s the best prank you’ve ever pulled on someone?

What is the weirdest roommate story you’ve heard?

What inanimate object do you wish you could eliminate from existence?

If your hometown was a food, what food would it be?

What would the world be like if it was filled with male and female copies of you?

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Toilet paper, over or under?

What mythical creature would improve the world most if it existed?

What would be the worst “buy one get one free” sale of all time?

What are some things that are okay to occasionally do but definitely not okay to do every day?

If your five-year-old self suddenly found themselves inhabiting your current body, what would your five-year-old self do first?

What are some fun ways to answer everyday questions like “how’s it going” or “what do you do”?

How do you feel about putting pineapple on pizza?

What is something that you just recently realized that you are embarrassed you didn’t realize earlier?

If someone asked to be your apprentice and learn all that you know, what would you teach them?

In one sentence, how would you sum up the internet?

What’s your favorite indoor/outdoor activity?

Where is the strangest place you’ve urinated or defecated?

What is your favorite body part?

What fictional character is amazing in their book / show / movie, but would be insufferable if you had to deal with them in mundane everyday situations?

What set of items could you buy that would make the cashier the most uncomfortable?

What two totally normal things become really weird if you do them back to back?

If you were arrested with no explanation, what would your friends and family assume you had done?

What part of a kid’s movie completely scarred you?

What is the funniest name you have actually heard used in the real world?

If life were a video game, what would some of the cheat codes be?

What would be the worst thing for the government to make illegal?

What used to be considered trashy but now is very classy?

If you were wrongfully put into an insane asylum, how would you convince them that you’re actually sane and not just pretending to be sane?

What is the weirdest thing you have seen in someone else’s home?

What sport would be the funniest to add a mandatory amount of alcohol to?

What is something that everyone looks stupid doing?

What’s the weirdest smell you have ever smelled?

If you were held at gunpoint and told that if you didn’t impress them with your dance moves you would be killed, what dance moves would you bust out?

What’s the most ridiculous fact you know?

What’s the best type of cheese?

What chore do you absolutely hate doing?

What’s your least favorite mode of transportation?

Is cereal soup? Why or why not?

What would be the hat to end all hats? What could you wear on your head that would make people stop what they are doing and stare in awe and amazement?

Which body part do you wish you could detach and why?

What is the most embarrassing thing you have ever worn?

Who do you know that really reminds you of a character in a TV show or movie?

Is a hotdog a sandwich? Why or why not?


Random Questions to get to know people better (perfect for virtual dates)

Random questions are fun and they are also some of the most basic and general questions to ask. Try these out if you are feeling a little random! The perfect questions to ask new friends!

If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?

What’s your favorite ice cream topping?

Which one would you choose to watch: Family Guy or South Park?

Give me three words that describe you.

Snapchat or Instagram?

What’s a random award or recognition you feel you deserve?

What’s your favorite Christmas movie?

What was the last TV show you binge-watched?

What was the best vacation you ever took and why?

Would you say you’re more of an extrovert or an introvert?

If you were to write a book, what kind would it be?

How would you describe your sense of humor?

If you were a ghost where would you haunt? Why?

What are your hobbies, and how did you get into them?

If you were lost in the woods, how long do you think you’d survive? Why? What special skills would you put to use?

Where’s the next place on your travel bucket list and why?

What kind of car did you wish you had when you were a kid? What about now?

In a zombie apocalypse, what would be your weapon of choice?

Tell me 10 things I’d see when I walk in your door?

Do you like going to the movies or prefer watching at home?

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When was the time you felt most free?

What was the last thing you read?

What’s your favorite way to spend a day off?

Who would play you in a movie about your life? Who would play me?

If you could take a week off from your regular life to immerse yourself in learning something new, what would it be?

What is something you avoid at all costs? Is it a fear, aversion, or is there a special story behind your answer?

Are you into podcasts or do you only listen to music?

What’s your favorite sleeping position?

What kind of celebration would there be on a “St. YOU” day?

If you had to make an iPod playlist named after me, what songs would be on it?

What is your favorite thing to create?

What type of music are you into?

Do you have a favorite holiday? Why or why not?

What is your favorite video game?

What’s a movie you can practically quote from start to finish?

What is your favorite flavor of jelly bean?

What was your favorite age growing up?

What’s your favorite 1950s rock song?

What’s your go-to guilty pleasure?

What’s one job you would never do?

You look great! What’s your fitness routine?

What was the best birthday you ever had?

What is the worst thing you’ve ever purchased and why was it so bad?

If you could go back in time and make little changes to your childhood, what is one thing you’d learn and master over the years so you’d be an expert at it today?

What is one thing you wish you were better at?

What’s something you wish people automatically knew about you? Name something about yourself you wish you could just put on a T-shirt so you could get it out of the way when meeting new people.

If you could live in any period of history when would it be and why?

See more: Deep Questions to ask a girl to get to know them better!


Interesting Get to Know You Questions (great for Work)

These questions are interesting and therefore the perfect questions to ask someone you just met. They would be ideal for a second date.

What is your biggest complaint about your job?

What would you sing at Karaoke night?

What is your favorite recent memory?

If you could hire someone to help you, would it be with cleaning, cooking, or yard work?

What two radio stations do you listen to in the car the most?

What led you to pursue your current career?

What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?

What is your favorite holiday?

Would you rather ride a bike, ride a horse, or drive a car?

What is one thing that instantly makes your day better?

Where do you see yourself in ten years?

What would you change about yourself if you could?

What do you wish more people understand about you?

What did you want to be when you were small?

When did you first feel like an adult?

What really makes you angry?

What are you most thankful for?

If you could live anywhere, where would it be?

What makes you laugh the most?

What is your best childhood memory?

What is your favorite book to read?

Who is your favorite author?

Do you like cooking? What’s your favorite dish to prepare?

What is your biggest fear?

Have you traveled much? Where would you recommend visiting?

If you could choose to do anything for a day, what would it be?

What is your favorite family vacation?

What family member are you closest to?

Would you ever run a marathon?

Who is your hero?

What is the most important decision you have ever made so far?

Where is the coolest place you traveled?

Do you collect anything?

Do you enjoy hiking, camping or outdoor adventuring?

Who is your hero?

What does your average weekend look like?

Who is the smartest person you ever met?

What makes you unique?

What do you enjoy spending money on?

Tell me about your longest running friendship?

What is on your bucket list?

What is the greatest challenge or struggle you have ever faced?

What is the biggest risk you ever took?

What motivates you to work hard?

What books do you enjoy reading?

Where do you like to eat in your neighborhood?

What is your favorite thing about your career?

What is your most prized possession?

What is your favorite game or sport to watch and play?

Which would you rather do: wash dishes, mow the lawn, clean the bathroom, or vacuum the house?

What is something that always makes you smile?

Have you always worked in your current profession?

What are you most looking forward to?

Whose opinion do you care most about?

What are you passionate about?

If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

Do you do any sports or recreational activities?

Would you prefer to live in the city or the countryside?

What is your proudest accomplishment?

What is your earliest memory?

What do you do on a typical weekend?

Who knows you best?

What skill would you most like to learn?

What is your child’s proudest accomplishment?

What was the last movie you went to? What did you think?

What’s your favorite movie of all time?

Aside from necessities, what one thing could you not go a day without?


Deep Getting to Know You Questions

Deep questions are some of the best questions to ask! If you want to move your connection to a deeper level, try asking some of these questions:

Where is the line between art and not art?

Does the Law of Attraction exist?

How long will you be remembered after you die?

Do we have free will?

What is time?

Is having a big ego a negative or positive trait?

Is there a meaning to life? If so, what is it?

Why do we dream?

How would humanity change if all humans’ life expectancy was significantly increased (let’s say to around 500 years)?

Is love simply physical desire or something more?

Does a person’s name influence the person they become?

Does hardship make a person stronger? If so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If not, what makes a person stronger?

Where do thoughts come from?

Is the meaning of life the same for animals and humans?

Where do you find meaning in your life?

If you could teach everyone in the world one concept, what concept would have the biggest positive impact on humanity?

What harsh truths do you prefer to ignore?

Is suffering a necessary part of the human condition? What would people who never suffered be like?

What is consciousness?

What actions in your life will have the longest reaching consequences? How long will those effects be felt?

Where were people before they were born?

Is there a perfect life?

Have gadgets and apps taken away emotions?

Is there a meaning of life?

Does life require a purpose and a goal?

If a child somehow survived and grew up in the wilderness without any human contact, how “human” would they be without the influence of society and culture?

Is there a God?

What is mathematics?

What does it mean to live a good life?

If someone you loved was killed in front of you, but someone created a copy of them that was perfect right down to the atomic level, would they be the same person and would you love them just as much?

What is happiness?

What should be the goal of humanity?

Are we in the Matrix?

Where does your self-worth come from?

Does evil come from within, and if so why?

Is mind or matter more real?

What is infinity?

Is the most important purpose in life to find happiness?

Is there inherent order in nature or is it all chaos and chance?

How does gravity work?

Would things get better or worse if humans focused on what was going well rather than what’s going wrong?

Where does the universe end?

Is free will real or just an illusion?

If everyone spoke their mind would this world be a better place?

Does fate exist? If so, do we have free will?

How will humans as a species go extinct?

Have we become less happy in this age of technology?

What is beauty?

Is there an alternative to capitalism?

How can people believe in truths without evidence?

Do acts of kindness have a motive?

Can achieving nothing make a person happy?

Would you kill 10 people to save 100?

If you could become immortal on the condition you would NEVER be able to die or kill yourself, would you choose immortality?

Is there absolute mortality?

Does observation alter an event?

Will religion ever become obsolete?

What is true friendship?

Are humans obligated to better themselves?

Is it more important to be respected or liked?

What do you think would be humanity’s reaction to the discovery of extraterrestrial life?

Can we really know everything?

Are people in this current generation less or more sensitive than people from past generations?

What is the meaning of a good life?

Is it possible to live a normal life and not ever tell a lie?

What in life is truly objective and not subjective?

Is it easier to love or to be loved?



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