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How to make your best friend fall in love with you

Wondering how to make your best friend fall in love with you?    

It is common for guys to all in love with their best friend but to make them fall in love with you can get challenging.         

While I can’t say for sure that a person’s feelings for someone can be changed, there are a few tips that you can follow to increase your chances of making your friend fall in love with you.

How to make your best friend fall in love with you

Some of the ways you can get your best friend to fall in love with you are by being a shoulder for her to lean on, dropping hints about your feelings, or even knowing when to back off.

There are many more tips that can help encourage her to view you in a romantic way which I will talk below.

Be The Best

A woman can have more than one best friend. What you need to be is the best among her best friends.

What I’m saying is that you should be the person she can’t live without. She should be able to share all your problems with you and count on you for help during her difficult times.

This kind of bond should be from both sides. Both of you should establish a connection in such a way that neither of you could live without each other. The more she trusts you, the more chances she will give you to be her boyfriend.

Share Everything About Yourself

Make her realize that you are a person with goals, dreams, and ambitions. Women love ambitious guys. Don’t be just another friend.

There is a possibility for feelings of love to grow inside her once you start sharing your dreams, goals, good and bad times. The more she knows about you, the better your chances will be.

Make Her Feel Special

Women love it when someone makes them feel special. Treat her in such a unique way that no other person treats her.

Appreciate her for being there for you when you needed her and support you during your bad times. Also, compliment her for the comfort she provides you and being the reason for your happiness.

Similarly, support her in every way, cheer for her, encourage her, make build your dreams with her and show her that you are a dependable person.

Throw Hints At Her

Before she starts getting any brotherly sentiments or says that she loves you only as a friend you need to start giving hints to her that you like her as more than a friend.

You can do this by starting with non-offending simple flirts, comments and do things for her that makes her think that you are a sweet person but also think long enough to feel that there is something more to all this.

Flirt With Her

In the beginning, it can be difficult for you to flirt with her using words since she might misunderstand that you are only friends with her so that you can make her your girlfriend.

For a while, stick to flirting with her using your body like sitting shoulder to shoulder with her. Always maintain eye contact with her and don’t forget to smile a lot. Let your eyes speak your feelings to her.

If both of you are comfortable enough in your friendship, you can even tickle her or give her piggyback rides.

Then you can gradually move towards flirting with words. Tell her how much she means to you or how special she is to you. You can also tell her how much you admire her and how she makes your day easier.

Just make sure that you are only giving her little hints and not admiring her every 30 minutes. This might make her uncomfortable and think that something is not right. Worst case, she might even start distance herself away from you.

Give Her Your Shoulder To Lean On

You should be the kind of person she can rely on, no matter how difficult it is.

If you are always there during her hard times, give her your shoulder to lean on and help her get through them, she will start trusting you more, and always look towards you for support.

She will also feel safe and secure whenever you are with her.


Be Patient

If you start noticing that she is also giving hints to you, then it means that you are on the right track. But if it’s taking a little longer for your hints to reach her then try to up your game.

Some girls might be so used to flirting from other boys that she may not recognize your hints. In such cases, you need to be a bit more obvious and not be subtle.

If you start noticing that she is also giving hints to you, then it means that you are on the right track. But if it’s taking a little longer for your hints to reach her then try to up your game.

Some girls might be so used to flirting from other boys that she may not recognize your hints. In such cases, you need to be a bit more obvious and not be subtle.

Spend More Time With Each Other

This is an important tip. If just the two of you are getting much time to spend together, then you need to start working on that.

When you ask her, it should not make her feel like you are asking for a date but it should feel like a date to her when she is there.

For example, tell her that you are studying in a nearby café and want a beautiful girl to distract you from your studies. And once she is she you can ask her something like, “Hey, how about we go for coffee later, just me and you?”

Share Your Things With Her

By sharing your personal things with her, it will help her have a better understanding of you. For example, you can make a collection of your favorite music and give it to her.

This will help show her the other side of you and also gives her a subtle message that you like sharing your things with her. But also make sure that you share things with her that she likes or you are only going to set yourself for the fall.

At the same time don’t forget to ask her to share her own to show her that even you are interested in her.

Know When To Back Off

It is also important to find out what position you hold in her life. To find this you need to back off a little and see if she is missing you or not.

At the same time, it is important to make her realize what she is missing when you are not there. This will show her how you were making her life fuller and richer which will help to realize your need in her life.

To make this happen you need to know when to back off. You need to play hard to get once realize that you are getting somewhere with her.

If you are meeting her every day then avoid her for a few days and let her feel your absence. She should understand how she feels for you when you are not around her. But you also have to make sure that have a valid reason for your absence so that you don’t get caught red-handed.

If this is not working for you then try going out with another girl for a day and see how she will react. The goal is not to make her jealous but to show her that girls like to hang around with you.

Know Her Feelings Directly From Her

Forget what her friends tell you about what she feels about you because such information always gets misrepresented.

For example, if she tells her friend something about you, they might tell it in a completely different way to their other friends and this gossip gets completely twisted by the time it reaches you.

Just keep doing fun things with her and keep her happy. Some studies have also shown that doing exciting and adventurous things with girls makes them release a chemical in their body which is associated with romantic feelings.

Take her to games such as a haunted house, roller coaster, or anything that will make her scream with excitement.

Confess Your Feelings

Once you are completely sure about taking your relationship to the next stage confess your feelings to her.

But you also should be ready to accept the risk of losing your friend as it can get really awkward and uncomfortable when she comes to know that you want much more than friendship and she isn’t feeling the same way about you.

You are risking your friendship for a relationship and if that doesn’t go as planned then she may never talk to you again.

Express your feelings only if you are sure about it. Tell your feelings honestly. You can say something like “I value our friendship a lot but I have also come to realize how special you are in my life and how much you make me feel alive. I value our friendship above everything else but I also can’t hide my feelings from you. I really like you a lot. Will you go on a date with me?”

You can also tell her that you can handle it if she doesn’t feel the same way about you. Ask her for her honest opinion and not a sugarcoated one.

Follow with something like “If you don’t feel the same about me I can understand and I respect that.” Such simple words can go a long way in saving your friendship if things go sideways.

Show her that you are still sweet and respectful to her even if she doesn’t want a relationship with you. This can also help in increasing your chances in case she ever changes her mind in the future.

Finally, don’t get overly emotional and break down. It can make her misunderstanding you and think that you are trying to manipulate her using your emotions and gradually start to distance herself from you.

So be strong and keep a smile on your face and always try to keep her happy like the best friend you always were. You never know when luck will be on your side.




Saturday 28th of January 2023

Love ur article, I am in love with my best friend, she even invited me to her family’s Thanksgiving And Christmas also invited me to her best girlfriends wedding and New Year’s Eve party we do everything together, but, we are still just “ friends “ no sex or making out


Friday 10th of March 2023

@Biff, I totally understand. Dealing with similar issue. But not being too pushy, because she's dealing with a long divorce (ending in April) and had a very bad experience recently with another male friend that she thought was a good person and a "possibility, but dude was a mental and physical abuser. So I try to be a delicate, but still let her know how I feel for her.