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100+ Struggling Marriage Quotes To Inspire and Encourage

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“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.”― Friedrich Nietzsche

It’s hard to wait for something you know might not happen, but it’s even harder to give up when you know it’s everything you want. – Unknown

Maybe it’s not always about trying to fix something broken. Maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better. – Unknown

“More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.” – Doug Larson

You can’t just give up on someone because the situation is not ideal. Great relationships aren’t great because they have no problems. They are great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work. – Unknown

“Real giving is when we give to our spouses what’s important to them, whether we understand it, like it, agree with it, or not.” – Michele Weiner-Davis

“All marriages have dark periods, even the great ones. Don’t give up when you’re in the valley.” – Michele Weiner-Davis

“She’s probably afraid you’ll turn out like her and be married to someone you can’t stand.”― Jennifer Brown

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“A strong marriage requires loving your spouse even in those moments when they aren’t being lovable; it means believing in them even when they struggle to believe in themselves.” – Dave Willis

“People always fall in love with the most perfect aspects of each other’s personalities. Who wouldn’t? Anybody can love the most wonderful parts of another person. But that’s not the clever trick. The really clever trick is this: Can you accept the flaws? Can you look at your partner’s faults honestly and say, ‘I can work around that. I can make something out of it.’? Because the good stuff is always going to be there, and it’s always going to pretty and sparkly, but the crap underneath can ruin you.”― Elizabeth Gilbert

“Marriage is those two thousand indistinguishable conversations, chatted over two thousand indistinguishable breakfasts, where intimacy turns like a slow wheel. How do you measure the worth of becoming that familiar to somebody—so utterly well known and so thoroughly ever-present that you become an almost invisible necessity, like air?” ― Elizabeth Gilbert

“I believe in love. I believe in hard times and love winning. I believe marriage is hard. I believe people make mistakes. I believe people can want two things at once. I believe people are selfish and generous at the same time. I believe very few people want to hurt others. I believe that you can be surprised by life. I believe in happy endings.” ― Isabel Gillies

“Maybe you expected marriage to be perfect – I guess that’s where you and I are different. See, I thought it would be all about making mistakes, but doing it with someone who’s there to remind you what you learned along the way.”― Jodi Picoult

“Many married women who have deliberately spurned the “hour” of childbearing are unhappy and frustrated. They never discovered the joys of marriage because they refused to surrender to the obligation of their state. In saving themselves, they lost themselves!”― Fulton J. Sheen

“The children of violently unhappy marriages, like my mother, are often hamstrung for life, but the children of happier marriages have problems too – all the worse, perhaps, because they don’t have virtue on their side.”― Lorna Sage

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Marriage Struggles Quotes

“Marriage is like a series of opposing reflections, inverse images getting ever smaller like nesting dolls, each one of your trying to squeeze yourself smaller to fit inside the hopes of the other, until one of you cracks or stops existing.”― Jacob M. Appel

“Marriage is meant to keep people together, not just when things are good, but particularly when they are not. That’s why we take marriage vows, not wishes.” – Ngina Otiende

“Great marriages are contagious; if you want a great marriage, surround yourself with couples who have one.” – Mark and Laquilla Lane

“A marriage is a like a house. When a light bulb goes out, you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb.” – Happy Wives Club

“I do not want to be defined by my circumstances, but rather refined by the trials I face because God’s designed a good plan for me.” – Beth Steffaniak

“Things don’t change in a marriage until the spouse who is taking responsibility for a problem that is not hers decides to say or do something about it.” – Henry Cloud and John Townsend

“People say love doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend renewing it daily.” – Unknown

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Tough Marriage

“Divorce isn’t the child’s fault. Don’t say anything unkind about your ex to the child, because you’re really just hurting the child.” — Valerie Bertinelli

“Marriage does not guarantee you will be together forever, it’s only paper. It takes love, respect, trust, understanding, friendship, and faith in your relationship to make it last.” — Unknown

“WHO WE MARRY is one of the most important decisions in life. One that will influence the level of happiness, growth, and success, like no other choice.” — Nathan Workman

“Marriage has no guarantees. If that’s what you’re looking for, go live with a car battery.” — Erma Bombeck

“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.” — D. Love

“There is no challenge strong enough to destroy your marriage as long as you are both willing to stop fighting against each other and start fighting for each other.” — Dave Willis

“A great marriage is not the union of the perfect couple, but an imperfect couple who accepts and embraces each other’s flaws.” — Anonymous

“A husband and wife may disagree on many things but they must absolutely agree on this: to never, ever give up.” — Unknown

“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.” – Leo Tolstoy

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Hard Time Relationship Marriage Quotes

“You know, when there’s a noise breaking into your sleep and you don’t want to wake up, you can dream a long complicated dream that explains the whole noise away.”― Amy Witting

“Marriage is not some fairytale. It is love, selflessness, patience, tolerance and enduring the hard times together.” – Unknown

“Every couple has the same five arguments in their lifetime, which is really just the one, over and over, until people die or divorce. What it is depends on who you are and what your parents did to you.” – Amy Bloom

“She’s not nagging. She’s trying to tell you something. The only reason she’s being persistent is because she cares. When she stops nagging as you call it, you should be worried because at that point she no longer cares.” – Unknown

“Love doesn’t self-destruct. We choke it with unkind words. We starve it with empty promises. We poison it with toxic blame. We break it by trying to bend it to our will. No, love doesn’t die on its own. We kill it. Breathe, by bitter breath. Wise are those who realize that they hold the fate of their love in their hands, and blessed are those who keep it alive.” –Unknown

Never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn’t care about losing you.” – Unknown

“Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of the love is lost. – Khalil Gibran

Difficult Marriage Quotes

“Marriage is one of the most difficult things in the world and unfortunately sometimes they fail.” – Demi Moore

“Coming to terms with the fact that my marriage was a failure was devastating and very difficult.” – Sarah McLachan

“In a successful marriage, there is no such thing as one’s way. There is only the way of both, only the bumpy, dusty, difficult, but always mutual path.” – Phyllis McGinley

“In a difficult marriage, both of us have failed each other. Even though one may be the major problem, you also have failed often in the way you have responded to them, the way you have treated them, in the way you have handled your hurt and your pain.” – Gary Chapman

“Marriage can be work, it can be difficult, it can be hard, but I think working through those times makes you stronger as a couple and as a unit.” – Brian Littrell

“Marriage is a kind of prison for anyone who’s miserable in it – men and women alike – and anyone who’s suffered through difficult periods in marriage dreams of escape from it.” – Adam Ross

“We all desperately need love. If a spouse in a difficult marriage will learn the love language of that spouse, and they will, with the help of God, consistently speak their love language no matter how they are treated.” – Gary Chapman

“Over the long haul, many of those people [in a difficult marriage] will begin to reciprocate, because you are meeting a basic need in their life, the need for love, and they know they don’t deserve love many times.” – Gary Chapman

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Inspirational Quotes About Marriage

“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate then when I fall asleep your eyes close.”– Pablo Neruda

“I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.”– Nicholas Sparks

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”– Mignon McLaughlin

“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness–and call it love–true love.”– Robert Fulghum

“What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strength each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?”– George Eliot

“Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.”– Plato

“What is Love? I have met in the streets a very poor young man who was in love. His hat was old, his coat worn, the water passed through his shoes and the stars through his soul.”– Victor Hugo

“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”– Dave Meurer

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”– Marilyn Monroe

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Failing Marriage

“I have endured, I have been broken, I have known hardship, I have lost myself. But here I stand, still moving forward, growing stronger each day. I will never forget the harsh lessons in my life. They made me stronger.” – Tiny Buddha

“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.” – Oprah Magazine

“I strongly believe children can thrive through divorce. Children need parents who love them. Children need to know they are safe. Children need stability and sometimes that’s much easier to achieve outside a marriage than in a broken one.” – Lisa Hayes

“It always gets worse before it can get better. But it will get better. Like everything else, and like our past struggles, at some point we win, but before that win, there’s always that loss that spurs us on.” – Dolores Huerta

“Don’t be afraid. Be focused. Be determined. Be hopeful. Be empowered.” – Michelle Obama
“Children do not care about child support, who was married to whom, or why you don’t like each other. They are children, they care that their parents show-up, that when there is a Christmas recital, and they peek through the curtains – all of the people they love are there – without fighting, for the best interest of the child.” – Jessica James

“Always remember that whatsoever is happening to you, is happening within you, and whatsoever you are doing, you are doing with yourself. Even when you are angry and hitting somebody else, you are doing something with yourself. The other is just a screen on which you project.”― Osho

Unhappy Marriage

“Marriage is meant to be more about your surrender than about your satisfaction.” – Scott Means

“Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong things about love. Nobody ever died of divorce.” – Jennifer Weiner

“If we must lose wife or husband when we live to our highest right, we lose an unhappy marriage as well, and we gain ourselves. But if a marriage is born between two already self-discovered, what a lovely adventure begins, hurricanes and all.” – Richard Bach

“Some people who think they are in unhappy marriages are just in unhappy bodies.” – Anne Roiphe

“The great secret of a successful marriage is to treat all disasters as incidents and none of the incidents as disasters.” – Harold Nicolson

“Nothing can cost you someone you love. The only thing that can cost you your husband is if you believe a thought. That’s how you move away from him. That’s how the marriage ends. You are one with your husband until you believe the thought that he should look a certain way, he should give you something, he should be something other than what he is. That’s how you divorce him. Right then and there you have lost your marriage.” – Byron Katie

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Best Marriage Quotes

“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, every day. You and me… every day.”– Nicholas Sparks 

“The essence of marriage is companionship, and the woman you face across the coffee urn every morning for ninety-nine years must be both able to appreciate your jokes and to sympathize with your aspirations.”– Elbert Hubbard

“To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting; take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.”– Criss Jami

“There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.”– Ronald Reagan

“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.”– Oscar Wilde

“Experts on romance say for a happy marriage there has to be more than a passionate love. For a lasting union, they insist, there must be a genuine liking for each other. Which, in my book, is a good definition for friendship.” – Marilyn Monroe

“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” – Pearl S. Buck

Inspirational Marriage Quotes

“Marriage is a thousand little things. It’s giving up your right to be right in the heat of an argument. It’s forgiving another when they let you down. It’s loving someone enough to step down so they can shine. It’s friendship. It’s being a cheerleader and trusted confidant. It’s a place of forgiveness that welcomes one home, and arms they can run to in the midst of a storm. It’s grace.” – Darlene Schacht

“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” – Dr Seuss

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu

“No one has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.” – Zelda Fitzgerald

“The difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary marriage is in giving just a little ‘extra’ every day, as often as possible, for as long as we both shall live.” – Fawn Weaver

“Love is a partnership of two unique people who bring out the very best in each other, and who know that even though they are wonderful as individuals, they are even better together.” – Barbara Cage

“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow–this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.”– Elizabeth Gilbert

“Love is like a beautiful flower which I may not touch, but whose fragrance makes the garden a place of delight just the same.”– Helen Keller

“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”– When Harry Met Sally

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