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200 Questions to ask your Girlfriend – Over Text or In Person!

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Communication is vital to a healthy relationship. Sometimes though, it’s tough to get or keep the conversation flowing. When you are in a new relationship, asking questions is how you get to know more about your significant other, and there is no telling what you might end up learning! Even if the two of you have been together for quite some time, there are still things you can learn about each other, and asking interesting questions can help you grow closer to each other.

Vulnerability and honesty will help you communicate with each other more effectively and make your relationship stronger. This article provides you with more than 200 questions to ask your girlfriend. The questions range from deep and thoughtful, to flirty, to just plain random and fun. These questions will help you learn more about your girlfriend, no matter how long you have been in a relationship.

Since there are so many questions, you don’t have to ask her all of them unless you just want to. Some of them may not even apply to your relationship. This is just a variety of questions to give you an idea of what to ask. Depending on how long you two have been together, you may want to start with some of the lighter questions first, then move on to the deeper, more romantic ones.

Deep Questions to ask your Girlfriend

These questions will help you get to know your girlfriend on a deeper level. They will help you get your girlfriend to open up and talk to you. If you are in a new relationship, you might not want to start with these questions.

When asking these questions, keep an open mind, and remember to let the conversation flow easily. If you feel like you are prodding too much, go back to some of the more fun and lighter questions and ask these at another time.

What social causes do you feel passionate about?

What do you want people to remember you for or remember about you?

Who of your friends have you been friends with the longest?

Do you have a close relationship with your family?

What things inspire you?

What goals have you set for yourself that you have achieved?

Who do you look up to the most?

What would most people be surprised to learn about you?

What are you most afraid of?

When are you the happiest?

Have you ever boycotted or protested for or against anything?

What has been the best job you have ever had?

What is the most important lesson that you have learned from your parents?

When you were a kid, what did you imagine your life would be like as an adult?

What do you look forward to the most when you think about getting old?

What do you want your life to be like in five years?

What is the strangest thing that you have kept for sentimental reasons?

How would you like to be perceived by other people?

If you could change anything about your family, what would it be?

When you are sad, do you like to talk about it, do you like to be left alone, or do you want a shoulder to cry on?

What is your favorite family tradition?

Who has had the most significant influence on your life and why?

 Who was your childhood hero? Why were they your hero?

What was your best childhood memory, and why is this your favorite memory?

What does friendship mean to you?

What is one thing in this world that you want to change?

How important are religion and culture to you?

Do you believe that culture shapes a person into who they are?

Do you think humans are better or worse off with all the recent advancements that have been made in medicine and technology?

Are you satisfied with your life the way it is now?

 Is there a question you have wanted to ask me but didn’t know how to ask or were afraid of what the answer might be?

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Romantic Questions to ask your Girlfriend

These are great questions to help you learn more about your girlfriend romantically without getting too deep and personal. If you don’t know much about your girlfriend’s romantic side, then these questions will help you learn more. Get ready for the conversation to take off and understand more about her!

Which wedding would you prefer: A beach ceremony with fifty of your closest friends and family or a great blowout with 300 people and a live band?

What is your ideal date: horseback riding and dinner prepared by your date, or dinner out at a romantic restaurant and club-hopping?

Would you ever quit your job or move to a new city for your partner?

How do you like to celebrate anniversaries?

What would be the perfect Valentine’s Day?

Do you like to plan dates, or would you prefer that I plan more dates?

Is there a class or activity you would love for us to take together?

Out of all the dates we’ve gone on, which was your favorite?

What is your favorite part of our relationship?

 If we went on a vacation together, where would we go and why?

In what situations do you feel that I love you?

What is your favorite place to be with me?

If you could describe our relationship in one word – what would that word be and why?

What makes you happy about our relationship right now?

What do you think makes our relationship unique?

Why did you fall in love with me?

Do you know what your love language is?

What is a romantic honeymoon destination?

What do you remember most about the first time we met?

What is your favorite love song?

 What is your favorite romantic movie?

Is an emotional or physical connection more important in a relationship?

Whose relationship do you admire from your friends and family the most?

What is something that you didn’t want me to know about you when we first started dating?

What is your favorite memory of us?

Do you like grand romantic gestures or smaller ones?

After a long day, would you rather have a nice dinner out or a cozy movie night?

Have you learned anything about yourself from being in a relationship with me?

How would you describe our relationship in one sentence?

Have you ever been swept off your feet by a romantic gesture?


Serious Questions to ask your Girlfriend

These questions are more serious and will help you get to know more about your girlfriend. You may learn some of her likes, dislikes, and plans for the future. Encourage her to give more than one-word answers and do not show any judgment. She will be more likely to open up if you don’t.

What is your favorite way to relax?

If you could live in another country, where would it be?

Do you like schedules and routines, or do you prefer to go with the flow?

If money were not an issue and you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?

What do you like the most about technology?

What do you like the least about technology?

If you could take a road trip anywhere, where would you go?

What skill have you worked the hardest to master?

Which would you rather have: stability or adventure?

Would you rather be understood or be unique?

When you need advice, who do you go to?

Which do you like better: giving or receiving gifts?

What is the best compliment you have ever received?

What’s one book that you could read over and over?

 Do you like making decisions, or do you tend to be indecisive?

 Have you ever lied about your age?

 Have you ever received a random act of kindness?

 Have you ever given a random act of kindness?

Do you like spending time alone?

What do you like most about yourself?

When you walk into a room, do you want to be noticed, or would you rather blend in with everyone else?

 Do you feel that we spend enough time together?

What’s something that seems silly to other people but really freaks you out?

Do you think it is possible to be friends with your ex?

Is a beautiful person with no personality or an unpleasant personality still beautiful?

 Does death scare you?

 What was the hardest thing that you went through as a kid?

 Is there anyone you have not talked to in a long time and you miss?

What is the bravest thing that you have ever done?

 Do you think that your younger self would be proud of what you’ve achieved so far?


Cute Questions to ask your Girlfriend

Not all questions have to be serious! You can have a little more fun with these questions. They are lighter and sweet and will surely make your girlfriend smile and hopefully get the conversation flowing as well.

What is your favorite flower?

Who or what makes you happy?

Do you mind if I call you anytime I feel like hearing your voice?

How many times did you want to kiss me before it happened?

Would you rather hug me for five seconds or kiss me for only one second?

What is the craziest thing that you would do for me?

What nickname would you give me?

Do you like when I tell you how cute you are?

Would you dance with me on an empty dance floor?

What is the best way to make you happy?

 What has been the happiest moment in your life so far?

Do you care if I give you a nickname?

 Which do you think is cuter, a baby or a puppy?

Did your heart flutter when we first met?

 What do I do that makes you smile?

Do you think we would have dated in high school?

Have you ever kissed someone under the mistletoe?

What is your favorite way to show affection?

What is your favorite way to receive affection?

What is an item on your bucket list that you would like for us to accomplish together?

If you had a warning label, what would it say?

 What things remind you of me?

 What is one thing that always makes you laugh?

 Are you ticklish?

 Have you ever been given a nickname that you don’t like?

 What is the best prank you can play on someone?


Flirty Questions to ask your Girlfriend

If you’re feeling flirty and want to ask your girlfriend some fun questions without getting too deep, these questions are perfect. Plus, some of these questions might open up the door for you to ask some more romantic questions.

Do you like it when I wear cologne?

What’s the first thing that popped into your mind when you first saw me?

Would you kiss me in public?

What do you do to flirt with me that you think I don’t notice?

Who do you think is more affectionate out of the two of us?

Is there a song that makes you think about me?

What is the best pickup line you have ever heard?

What is the worst pickup line you’ve ever heard?

How old were you when you had your first kiss?

Do you check out your reflection?

Do you have a celebrity crush?

What is the craziest thing you have ever done to impress someone?

Which do you like better: movie dates or restaurant dates?

Do you think that men should always make the first move, or is it okay for women to make the first move?

What couples costume have you always wanted to do for Halloween?

Does getting a text message from me make you smile?

Which do you enjoy more, staying in or going out?

Do you ever still get nervous around me?

Would you rather be called sexy or intelligent?

Would you never want to be able to kiss or never be able to cuddle?

What do you think is your most attractive non-physical feature?

What is my most attractive non-physical feature?

Do you like pet names, or do you think they’re silly?

Are you a good dancer?

Would you lay on the grass and look at the stars with me?

Random Questions to ask your Girlfriend

Have you run out of things to talk about with your girlfriend? Maybe the two of you spend a lot of time sitting in silence when you hang out or go out on dates. Perhaps there are always long awkward silences when the two of you are on the phone. These questions are random and off the wall, and some are even plain silly. But they will get the two of you talking and probably even laughing.

Which is scarier: giving a speech to 1,000 people or skydiving?

What movie can you quote the most lines from?

Has anyone ever thrown you a surprise party?

What is the worst pickup line anyone has ever used on you?

What is the funniest thing you’ve ever overheard?

Would you ever go to your high school reunion?

Do you ever laugh when you’re by yourself?

Would you rather go a day without your phone or toilet paper?

What fictional character do you wish was your best friend?

Have you ever had déjà vu?

Would you ever go on a reality TV show?

What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?

Do you remember your dreams?

What unhealthy food do you wish was good for you?

What is your favorite dinosaur?

Would you ever enter a hot dog eating contest?

Can you juggle?

Have you ever seen a ghost?

Do you like your name?

Would you rather be outdoors or indoors?

Do you like scary movies?

What food could you not live without?

If you had to choose between presents or chocolate, what would it be?

If you could have dinner with any celebrity, dead or alive, who would it be?

If you could teleport anywhere in the world right now, where would you go?

If you could change your name to anything, what would you pick?

If you could only listen to one song for the rest of your life, what song would it be?

What word do you hate?

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Hard Questions to ask your Girlfriend

These questions may be hard for you to ask or hard for your girlfriend to answer. Or, it may even be hard for you to hear how she answers some of these. But, profound and personal questions are essential for bonding and learning more about each other. If you feel like the two of you have connected enough for you to ask some of these, then go for it.

What challenging experiences have you gone through that have made you stronger?

What is one thing you wish you change about the world?

Have you ever been discriminated against?

Is honesty always the best policy?

What moment in your life taught you the most about yourself or someone else?

Are we a positive influence on each other?

Do we resolve our issues respectfully?

Are you good at keeping secrets?

What is the best advice your parents ever gave you?

What bad habit do you wish I would quit?

What is the most awkward phase you ever went through?

What is the most significant change you’ve ever made?

What is one thing I can do to improve our relationship?

If you could change one thing in your past, what would it be?

Who in your life has shaped you for better or worse?

What is your deepest heartache, and how did it change you as a person?

 Is yesterday, today, or tomorrow more important, and why?

What is the one thing you want to accomplish in your life?

 Are people born evil or made evil by circumstance?

How do you handle loss?

 Do you have a bad habit?

What is an innocent mistake you made that had dramatic consequences?

 What have you done that has given you the most satisfaction when looking back on your life?

 What scares you most about our relationship?

 When was the last time you cried?

 Which past relationship do you regret the most? Which do you miss the most?

 How do you cope with stress?

 What charity are you most passionate about helping?

 Have you ever watched a loved one die?

 What do you consider your greatest accomplishment in life?


Questions to ask your Girlfriend about Love

You may not be there in your relationship yet, and that’s okay. Not all of these questions may apply to your relationship. Some are just about love in general and will give you an idea of how she feels about love, her past relationships and experiences with love, and where you may stand with her.

How long was your longest relationship?

Do you believe in soul mates?

Who was your first crush?

How do you know when you’re in love?

Are relationships meant to last forever?

Have you ever had an unrequited love?

Who usually says ‘I love you first in your relationships?

What is the most important lesson you’ve learned from a past relationship?

What do I do that makes you feel loved and appreciated?

What’s more critical, wealth or love?

What do you look for in a relationship?

What is one difference between us that you love?

What is one similarity between us that you love?

Do you believe in love at first sight?

What love song do you wish was written about you?

Have you ever written a love letter to someone?

Have you ever sang someone a love song?

Have you ever been scared of loving someone too much?

What’s your favorite love story in history?

How do you define love?

What was the worst date you ever went on?

What was the most serious relationship you’ve been in?

Do you think love can grow over time?

How do love and affection play a role in your life?

Have you ever been hurt in the past and questioned the possibility of love?


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